It has come to my attention that there are some parents out there who do not see the value in what we are doing. But, instead believe that all of the online efforts, the various FAGA groups, the various legal postings I share are all for the purpose of self-promotion and self- aggrandizement. They further complain, without any understanding of what it takes to prosecute one of these cases to completion, that I don’t do enough to help them, their families, their friends, etc. My response to all of this is:
I’m not sure what to say. I’m only one man. I am not ten feet tall, and I cannot hurl lightening out of my arse to smite your enemies. I am only human, and I suffer from the same human frailties that you do. I wish I did not, and I try every day to rise to the challenges that confront me. Please understand, there are literally thousands who need help. I do the best I can to attack the defects in the system using the tools I have. As for money, it seems you have no concept of how financially (and emotionally) draining it is to prosecute one of these cases — every single one takes a bite of flesh out of me and leaves something tragic and vile in its place.
With respect to your complaints or concerns that we are not able to respond to every inquiry as quickly as you might like, or with the answers you might want — We tell people when they call that we don’t have the resources to take every one of the thousands of cases that come across our path — I wish we could. But, we all know that is just not possible. There has to be a triage process. We let people know that if they don’t hear back from us, it means we can’t take their case. I know they have no place else to turn and it is difficult for me to reject them when they are in such dire need of help and experiencing such deep and abiding pain. So I do what I can to help by posting our work product online in the hopes that some of them will use the information to fight — or get it to their attorneys so that their attorneys can do the same. That’s the best I can do. If there are those out there who fail or refuse to see any value in all of this, there is nothing I can do about that.
There will always be those who only see the negative in other people as opposed to the positive. There’s nothing I can do about that. You are the only ones who can modulate your perception of those who move in the world around you. You are the only ones who can decide to face your demons with the tools you have, or blame your losses on others. Only you can choose to fight.
For those of you out there who have doubts, or start to feel forgotten and alone, I find great solace when I read this poem, I hope it helps:
Go placidly amid the noise and the haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible, without surrender,
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others,
even to the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons; they are vexatious
to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain or bitter, for always
there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs, for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals,
and everywhere life is full of heroism.
Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment,
it is as perennial as the grass.
Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be.
And whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul.
With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.